Being Evaluated As A Communicator

The scores from the evaluations were very close.  They were within three points up or down when comparing the communication and aggressiveness scores. I was very surprised at my aggressiveness score. I did not think I was as aggressive as my score said. Why am I surprised, because I do not go for a person position or attack their character when in conversations with them.

I am learning how well I communicate with others.  This exercise has giving me a better picture on where I need help and how I can fix the trouble spots so that I can do well went I am talking to children or adults during work or play. I can say one thing, my family member and friend do agree with me that I am a excellent listener.

Sandra

Communicating more effectively

Looking at cultural diversity that is in my life, from my colleagues at school, my neighborhood, the workplace and especially in my family, I can say that I do communicate differently to them. My family is truly diverse. My immediate family is black.  My sister-in-laws are Korean and Puerto Rican. My sister is Panamanian, and I have a niece who is white. English and Spanish is the language that you will hear during a cookout, birthday party or just getting together to share what is going on in the family.

I talk to my colleagues on a different level than I would when talking to my neighbors. My coworkers I communicate with my language style is much different than how I may talk with family at home. 

My understanding of others and their behaviors, my ability to adapt by being flexible with the will to change my own behaviors, and the ability to change I must be versatile, not so much stuck in my behavior style is all I need to be able to communicate with any group of people.
Sandra

Assumptions in Communication

I watched this show called Dance Moms. This is what I observed with the volume turned down.

My notes: Moms and their children in a dance competition. Last practice before contest. The relationships are good between the parent and child, but not as good between one parent and the coach. There was a scene where the coach and a parent were going back and forth at each other, moving the mouths very fast. The parent got up from her chair and walked out the room. The same parent is seen crying and the others seem to be consoling her.

Their facial expressions are showing a lot of hate and madness, crying, sarcasm,  I see love, hugging and happiness from the smiles and clapping of the hands/ moving of their lips.

 I then watch the show with the volume turned up.  My notes:  I was right on the point with the plot and characters of the show. Using my nonverbal skills,I had to have patience, paying attention to their body positions, facial expressions, body language. I also tried to read their lips. 

Do I think it makes a difference if I had already seen the show and know what it was about for me to be correct on the show? It does not matter if I have seen the show before or not. If I am using my nonverbal skills, I should be able to tell others about the actors/actress in the show, and be as close as I can on what the plot may be in the show as well.

I feel that all of my communication skills are important but there may be times when I have to depend on by nonverbal skills to understand a child or adult. The difference between the two is having patience. We sometimes are in a hurry and just do not want to take the time to hear what is being said. There is also times when we may have a language barrier and have no choice but to depend on these skilss. Just my thoughts and opinion

Sandra

Effective Communication

My mother is the best communicator there is. She talks with a a certain kind of class. I say it is not high class, but with class. She never yells, sometime she speaks so soft, you cannot hear her. My mom uses her hands and facial expression to get her point across, ever if you do not want to hear it. I like to hear her talk, she gets the respect while she is talking, but she will stop and listen because it takes a great listener to be a great talker.